Have you ever felt being in a situation of being taken advantage of?
I’ll paint you a picture - You are a super-capable person. Despite many things you have to juggle out of your situation, you can still keep up. So people think you are okay being dumped with responsibilities that’s not yours in the first place.
For some time, you think nothing of it. You try to understand their situation. You just want nothing but the best for your loved ones. So you just put on with that. Until one day, you realize you actually couldn’t cope. You get tired easily. You get cross with your children. You easily get annoyed at the slightest thing. You want out but you don’t know how because people just assume you are okay.
You start to think - oh well. I’ll try not to whine about it but let me reach out for help. Instead of doing everything yourself you try to give back the responsibilities that’s not yours to the rightful person, then stand there getting angry because now, the responsibilities that you have been carrying is just being left around with the hope you will pick it up again.
Not just enough with being an executor, you are also expected to be the person who has to oversee all, who has to plan out what needs to be done, and when. You begrudge this role because planning is an exhausting work on its own. You wish you could be a passenger at the back maybe chipping in a helpful tips once in a while but not being the driver in the vehicle.
Slowly, you feel miserable as you realize that perhaps people are too comfortable with you being in-charge that they refuse to step up to the role they are supposed to be. You are also tired of being tired, being angry, being drained ALL THE TIME.
So one day, after you asked for help and being ignored, you just snapped. You think to yourself (albeit angrily as usual), fine. If I can’t rely on you, I’ll just do it myself. I’ll pick up your responsibilities but there’s nothing left for you because things are supposed to be mutual. I got your back, you are supposed to get my back but disappointingly you don’t. So why bother to keep it mutual? Your responsibilities are now mine and mine alone so I don’t have to be disappointed in you anymore.
You are forced to retreat back to your sanctuary and rebuild the high high wall around your heart which is kind of hurting, because you now have to preserve yourself so your loved ones will not suffer anymore. The thing with being behind a tall wall that no one can reach you is, you also get ex-communicated. You choose to be silent because you get tired of not being listened to.
Someday, when your heart isn’t hurting so much, you may tear down the wall or probably that wall will stay there permanently.
I’ll paint you a picture - You are a super-capable person. Despite many things you have to juggle out of your situation, you can still keep up. So people think you are okay being dumped with responsibilities that’s not yours in the first place.
For some time, you think nothing of it. You try to understand their situation. You just want nothing but the best for your loved ones. So you just put on with that. Until one day, you realize you actually couldn’t cope. You get tired easily. You get cross with your children. You easily get annoyed at the slightest thing. You want out but you don’t know how because people just assume you are okay.
You start to think - oh well. I’ll try not to whine about it but let me reach out for help. Instead of doing everything yourself you try to give back the responsibilities that’s not yours to the rightful person, then stand there getting angry because now, the responsibilities that you have been carrying is just being left around with the hope you will pick it up again.
Not just enough with being an executor, you are also expected to be the person who has to oversee all, who has to plan out what needs to be done, and when. You begrudge this role because planning is an exhausting work on its own. You wish you could be a passenger at the back maybe chipping in a helpful tips once in a while but not being the driver in the vehicle.
Slowly, you feel miserable as you realize that perhaps people are too comfortable with you being in-charge that they refuse to step up to the role they are supposed to be. You are also tired of being tired, being angry, being drained ALL THE TIME.
So one day, after you asked for help and being ignored, you just snapped. You think to yourself (albeit angrily as usual), fine. If I can’t rely on you, I’ll just do it myself. I’ll pick up your responsibilities but there’s nothing left for you because things are supposed to be mutual. I got your back, you are supposed to get my back but disappointingly you don’t. So why bother to keep it mutual? Your responsibilities are now mine and mine alone so I don’t have to be disappointed in you anymore.
You are forced to retreat back to your sanctuary and rebuild the high high wall around your heart which is kind of hurting, because you now have to preserve yourself so your loved ones will not suffer anymore. The thing with being behind a tall wall that no one can reach you is, you also get ex-communicated. You choose to be silent because you get tired of not being listened to.
Someday, when your heart isn’t hurting so much, you may tear down the wall or probably that wall will stay there permanently.
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